4 Tips to Avoid Burnout as a Single Mom
Are you suffering from mommy burnout? Do you think burnout is unavoidable? It's not a secret that single moms tend to burnout more because we're doing the work of two people. It can be incredibly exhausting.
Are you taking on more than necessary? Probably. Are you avoiding delegating tasks either because you do it better or you don't wait to be let down, disappointed when the person lets you down? Most likely. When you pay attention to the details and routines in your life, you may find the answer to your problem.
If you feel like you're overdoing it, then you probably are. If you feel like shit at the end of the day, yes take pleasure in the fact that you survived another day on the grind providing for your little family.
Naturally, you want to be a good mother and provide your child with all that they need and then some. But perfection is not a realistic part of parenting. Burning yourself out makes you useless to your children.
It's time to take the signs that your body and mind are sending you and avoid burnout. Remember you are only human and you need to take care of yourself. So I'm going to help you out and give you a few tips on how single moms like you can avoid mommy burnout.
USE YOUR SUPPORT TEAM
Before I dive in, let me ask you this first. Are you not asking for help because you have no support system? Or is it because you feel your kids are solely your responsibility and you feel this is your solution to solve?
Well if it's the former, I want you to try creating your own support team with the people whom you interact with and trust the most. If you need some ideas on where to start, look within your community.
Your church or spiritual organization, make nice with the moms at your children's daycare, or co-workers who you may be close with at your job. If your problem is more of the latter, try getting used to asking for help from your family. If they say, sorry I can't help you, then at least you asked. If they say yes you've just taken a step in the right direction.
Parenting is a job designed for two. Yes, you can do it on your own, but should you. If your children's father is not involved in any way, you need a support team. Especially to help alleviate some of the burdens of motherhood.
ALLOW BREAKS IN YOUR SCHEDULE
Your body does not run on everlasting batteries and some point you need to stop, recharge, and stop over caffeinating your body. Speaking from experience here. Are you afraid that if you take a break it will make you any less of a mother? Do you feel like it makes you look weak? Or are you afraid of getting beyond on your tasks?
Well, I'll start by addressing the two obvious concerns. Taking a break does not make you less of a mother because you need a nap, lunch, or just need to step out for some fresh air. What you are is human and there is only so much you can take before you snap (and hopefully not end up on the show).
DON'T OVER PRIORITIZE
You can only do so much in a day and some of it may seem important when actually it's not. Sometimes you need to learn when to drop it from your routine or to do list. Or when you need to delegate said tasks to someone else.
To avoid burnout you need to make choices about what tasks come first. This will mean sacrifices. You shouldn't give 100% of yourself 100 percent of the time. As a single mom, you really shouldn't try to be Ms. Do It All at work and home.
LISTEN TO YOUR BODY
You perform your best when you’re healthy so it's important to listen to all your body cues. I understand deadlines, appointments, making sure all the tasks are checked off so you can finally be done with your checklist. But that's the thing. There will always be deadlines and checklist.
But there is only one of you and you need to take care of yourself. It's okay to slow down.
Don’t feel guilty for not being able to give every single thing your immediate attention. As you begin to listen to your body, allowing breaks or eating when you know you should, your energy will start to increase.
All in all, it's time to drop the "I can do everything" mindset and focus on how to avoid burnout with these tips. It's also important that you recognize burnout before it hits so that you can utilize each of these tips throughout your day.
So what is burnout? The signs of burnout include mental, physical, emotional exhaustion and low energy. If left unchecked it could damage your happiness, job performance, and health. So it's important that you know what to look for, but use these tips to prevent mommy burnout.
I'm Daisha Renee; single mama, foodie, and lover of yoga. Here on the blog, I love providing powerful solutions for overwhelmed single moms who struggle with balancing all the components of single motherhood.