Stop Having Limiting Beliefs Because You're a Single Mom
The other day I was binge-watching "The Bold Type". A hit show on Freeform that follows three women as they explore their identity and pursue their dreams. On one particular episode, Kat, Scarlett's Head of Social Media wanted to offer positions to women the magazine would not ordinarily approve of.
She sought out voices in social media of everyday women. One young lady, in particular, stated that she would have never thought she could have a job at Scarlett because of where she comes from. This is an example of a limiting belief.
Often enough single moms don't go after what they want due to limiting beliefs. Believing that your status as a single mother constrains you to one kind of lifestyle. When you do this, you impoverish yourself and keep you from living the life you deserve.
It's time to learn how to start exploring your options, dreaming bigger, and discovering yourself. Your life isn't "over" just because you're a single mom. If anything this is the time to set yourself loose and reach for things you find unattainable.
Honestly, once you're a single mom who feels like everyone is judging you. The person who interviews you for a job, a date, associates, some family, and friends. And maybe you're tired of being judged so you no longer go for things you truly want because you don't think they're attainable anymore.
Not Enough Resources Available to You
I've been going back and forth about buying my first home. It's something that I truly want for me and for my kids so they can have a home that they can grow up in. It's always been the dream, especially once I became engrossed with HGTV.
At one point I remember thinking that he wasn't smart to buy a home, then I may meet someone and fall in love or whatever. I thought, what's the point? Or thinking that I couldn't do it because I am buying completely on my own, and I'm already not getting much financial support regarding my children. Making a big purchase like this really scares me. Has this happened to you too?
I was afraid to move forward because I was afraid that I did not have the resources to purchase a home. That's a limiting belief. I really, really wanted this so I began to do the research on what it would take to make it happen. Needless to say, it's going to be money tight for the next eleven months.
Moral of the story is don't be afraid to go for something because you think you won't be able to pull the resources necessary. Do your research, crunch the numbers, talk to whomever you need to talk to and make it happen.
Your Life Does Not Have to Fully Revolve Around Your Children
When we base every decision on how our choices will affect o kids, you end up using the words, "I can't" or "I have to", a lot. You belief system may stem how you view the world or an experience than influenced as a child. Your mother may have been a single mom who dedicated every waking minute to you. As a result, you have had an amazing childhood, but I'm sure you and your mother had two different experiences.
So you wanted to be the same kind of mom she was. As you age, the beliefs you created as a child no longer have purpose for you.
Your Life Is Not Over
You're only a single mom, your life is not over. Assholes and trolls will continue to judge you. Roadblocks will always keep trying to test you, but how you fair in this world is primarily up to you. If anything the fact that you are a single mom should push you to grind harder and go for the things you think are unattainable to prove a point.
I'm Daisha Renee; single mama, foodie, and lover of yoga. Here on the blog, I love providing powerful solutions for overwhelmed single moms who struggle with balancing all the components of single motherhood. I would also LOVE for you to come hang out with me in my Facebook Group. I can't wait to virtually meet you!