Why Single Moms Still Need Goals

When you became a single mom, did you think, "Well my life is over!" or  "I won't be able to do this or that because now I'm on my own."?  I thought so.   That kind of thinking is actually not uncommon. Hell, I'm sure married mothers have probably thought the same a time or two. But I have to tell you something.  You're wrong! You are still first and foremost a woman.

When you became a single mom, did you think, "Well my life is over!" or "I won't be able to do this or that because now I'm on my own."?

I thought so.

That kind of thinking is actually not uncommon. Hell, I'm sure married mothers have probably thought the same a time or two. But I have to tell you something.

You're wrong! You are still first and foremost a woman.

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Your dreams and aspirations do not die suddenly because you're a single mom. If anything now is the time for exploration and self-discovery. Have something that gives your life purpose besides your kids.

It's time to learn how to start exploring your options, dreaming bigger, and discovering yourself. Your life isn't "over" just because you're a single mom. If anything this is the time to set yourself loose and reach for things you find unattainable.

WHY YOU NEED GOALS

Contrary to popular beliefs, you don't need to wait until the new year to start setting them. The whole lure of setting goals in the new year is to start fresh on a clean slate. But why put your dreams on pause until a new year begins?

Or have you put off setting goals due to limiting beliefs? As a single mom, you're probably guilty of this. One reason your form limiting beliefs is to excuse yourself from what you perceive to be failures. Or contempt or rejection by others. When you do this, you impoverish yourself and keep you from living the life you deserve.

HOW TO SET GOALS THE CORRECT WAY

So how do you go about setting and achieving your goals? Well, before you start setting goals, think about the big picture. How do you plan on getting from point A to point B? What do you want your life to look like in 5 or 10 years?

When you set goals it's important that they motivate you, and have value in achieving them.

Your goals must be clear and defined. Generalized goals are unhelpful because they don't provide precisely where you want to end up.

Also, when setting goals use power and passion. Use words like "will" instead of "would like to" or "might".

Using "will" makes you more accountable. While "would like to" and "might allow you to use excuses for not accomplishing your goals.

LET GO OF LIMITING BELIEFS

Now I'm no stranger to having limiting beliefs myself. Sadly, when we do this, we impoverish ourselves and keep from living the life we deserve. It's time to explore dream bigger and discover yourself. Your life isn't "over" just because you're a single mom. If anything this is the time to set yourself loose and reach for things you find unattainable.

Roadblocks will always keep trying to test you, but how you prosper in this world is primarily up to you. If anything, the fact that you are a single mom should push you to grind harder.

Don't be afraid to go for something because you think you won't be able to pull the resources necessary. Do your research, crunch the numbers, talk to whomever you need to talk to and make it happen.

For the next 30 minutes or so, I want you to spend time dumping out things you'd like to accomplish by next year. Be as specific as you can.

Before getting started, consider the following needed for each of your goals:

  1. How much time or resources do you have available for your goal?

  2. Would you need to acquire new skills or knowledge

  3. Do you have the right people or support group around you to succeed?

Also, think about your routine going forward and how you might incorporate your goals into your regular schedule. Too often we're quick to dive right in without considering our current workload.

Good luck and don't stop working towards your BIG dreamy goals!


Before you go let me ask you if you’ve heard about my new workshop, 4 Secrets to Kicking Ass at Single Motherhood???

Well if not, let me fill you in.

Have you ever thought about being able to balance everything in your life without feeling overwhelmed or overworked? Or wondered why some people have time to accomplish their goals?

Being a single mom is without a doubt the most exhausting and overwhelming job you'll ever have.

Often slaves to the 9 to 5 grind, you're left feeling overwhelmed, overworked, with next to no energy to achieve your goals. Well now it’s time to take charge and change ALL of that!

In This Workshop, We'll Cover:

✨How to achieve balance so that you can feel less overwhelmed and overworked.
✨Learn how to integrate those components of your life that are very important to you and realizing that sometimes you need to make choices about what needs to come first.
✨The importance of maintaining a positive mindset
✨Understand why you need to make more time to focus on your goals.

Once you get this down, you’ll start experiencing balance the balance you crave!

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Hey there!

I'm Daisha Renee; single mama, foodie, and lover of yoga. Here on the blog, I love providing powerful solutions for overwhelmed single moms who struggle with balancing all the components of single motherhood